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[albatross]

There are a few things I'd like from my mother's when she dies, but what I would like most actually came from my grandmother's house - letters from my grandfather to my grandmother when he was a POW during WW2 and a telegram from the government when he was freed notifying her that he was suffering from malnutrition, but alive and would be coming home. There were also things like their marriage license and one or two other documents from their lives.I read the letters 3 or 4 times when I found them.

[beeyotch]

GAWD, all the stuff you guys wrote is the stuff of my nightmares. I have given SO much stuff--some worth re-selling, probably, but I don't make the time--to Goodwill. Bags and bags of stuff, especially since I had my kid. And I still have so much crap lying around! (Anyone know someone who wants linen baby ring slings and Tula baby carriers?)

I don't even want to think about when my mom dies. An entire house worth of stuff. Some Italian furniture that may be worth something, but probably is just a huge PITA to get rid of. A huge, ornate wood armoire that was too tall to ever fit in our U.S. house--something like 9 or 10 feet tall. So it's been sitting in our garage since 1987. My wedding dress she's been keeping in a closet, maybe could sell. Everything else, I WILL throw away, I have very little attachment to things.

[dolem]

My G-ma in law is around 95, she's been amazing at downsizing her life and really just keeping the things that really mean something to her. My in-laws, are the total opposite and they can't part with stuff she's totally fine with getting rid of. Like the light up Christmas Village she used to put up every year. She's 100% fine not having it any more but they nearly had a coronary when we mentioned donating it - they have their own. We have about 5-6 boxes of her stuff stored in our attic, mostly because my inlaws are mild hoarders and we didn't want to give them the excuse of "our garage is full of xx's stuff, too".

I don't even want to tackle my own parents house, they have had the old front door to their house in their garage for 17+ years because "it's nice".

We just got a new roof & emptied out the attic. I threw out SO much stuff it was unreal. I think every needs to move every 5-7 years to realize how much stuff you accumulate that you really don't need/use.

[czb]

i had large issues with my mom and like i told you guys, she was advised by her attorneys to not put details in her will. at one point she took me around her house and just asked what i wanted. not much. but she did wrap up all her limoges (it's probably >100 years old) and ship it to me. don't think it has much $$$ value any more but i really like looking at it in the cabinet. and my daughters loved having a tea party with it years ago. it's beautiful and elegant but probably not durable. it has gold leaf so obvs could not go through the dishwasher and i have come to realize i live in a family of SLOBS. (yes i wrote that). i think she also shipped me her silver. i really didn't want anything else. i'm sure my sister just sold all the rest when my mom passed.

[trixie]

It's really weird how people get emotionally attached to their stuff. Or maybe that's just me lol. I do have some cool stuff though, art and collectibles (no not hummels!) and just things that have sentimental value because I can tell you when and where I got it or who gave it to me and that makes it hard to part with.

I really didn't take much of my mom's things, wasn't really interested in her furniture, china, silverware or crystal but we really didn't have the same taste in things so it wasn't that hard. I have a lamp and her jewelry box and all her jewelry (and my grandmother's too) but I am so tempted to sell it all with the price of gold and like I'll ever wear a bunch of cocktail rings. She also had that Klimt print, "motherhood" not worth anything (just a framed print and the version minus the nipple lol) but she had it in her bedroom and she loved it. The one with the red-haired mom holding her brown haired baby. She was a redhead with two brown haired babies. So I think of her whenever I see it. Which is often because it's hanging in my office room. 

[louiswinthorpe111]

So when my mom died, we got the estate settled in 9 months. We had just moved her into her condo, so she already got rid of a ton, so we just had an estate sale and then took the rest to goodwill. I have her jewelry left, but that's it. We did take her living room furniture, but we sold it a few years later when we got new stuff. My youngest freaked out and started crying, "That's all we have left from Grandma!!"

China, gone, all her stuff gone. I did get tears when we sold the kitchen table and chairs we had growing up. And one thing neither my brother or I could part with...the silverware we used growing up. Beat up silverware from the 70's. We just couldn't take it to Goodwill. And I did keep some of her Christmas decorations.

My great aunt and uncle recently passed, and they were surrogate Grandparents. The one thing I requested was their old ceramic light up Christmas tree from the 80's. That have the lights coming out of the tips. And one of my great Grandpa's pipes, and this hideous pink plastic jewelry box I bought for my Great Grandma when I was a kid. I remember when I bought it at Walgreens. It was hideous. But she lined it with tissue and put her jewelry in it!! THAT's what you remember when someone you love passes.

Other than that, no one wants grandma and grandpas crap.

[notoriousmkg]

Aug 5, 2022 0:38:43 GMT beeyotch said:

GAWD, all the stuff you guys wrote is the stuff of my nightmares. I have given SO much stuff--some worth re-selling, probably, but I don't make the time--to Goodwill. Bags and bags of stuff, especially since I had my kid. And I still have so much crap lying around! (Anyone know someone who wants linen baby ring slings and Tula baby carriers?)

I don't even want to think about when my mom dies. An entire house worth of stuff. Some Italian furniture that may be worth something, but probably is just a huge PITA to get rid of. A huge, ornate wood armoire that was too tall to ever fit in our U.S. house--something like 9 or 10 feet tall. So it's been sitting in our garage since 1987. My wedding dress she's been keeping in a closet, maybe could sell. Everything else, I WILL throw away, I have very little attachment to things.

That armoire thing just reminded me:

My mom had an upright piano from Sohmer & Company.  Pretty good traditional piano.  My mom was pretty amazing on it.  I was also very good, too.  My brother?  Horrible.  But when my mom died, I agreed to let my brother have it.  Mrs Mo was kind of annoyed.  She was like "You are the one who plays - not him.  Why didn't YOU take it?"  And I said, "I am NOT going to have that 1,000 pound unwieldy monstrosity in our house.  No effing way.  I'm fine with our 88-key synthesizer".   But my brother now has two daughters who play it regularly, and my mom would love that.

I also let my brother have the antique furniture that was in my childhood bedroom.  Once again, Mrs Mo was like "Why?"  And I said, "I hate cherrywood furniture.  I don't want our kids' bedrooms looking like something from Downton Abbey."

[mrsfawlty]

Aug 5, 2022 0:38:43 GMT beeyotch said:

GAWD, all the stuff you guys wrote is the stuff of my nightmares. I have given SO much stuff--some worth re-selling, probably, but I don't make the time--to Goodwill. Bags and bags of stuff, especially since I had my kid. And I still have so much crap lying around! (Anyone know someone who wants linen baby ring slings and Tula baby carriers?)

I don't even want to think about when my mom dies. An entire house worth of stuff. Some Italian furniture that may be worth something, but probably is just a huge PITA to get rid of. A huge, ornate wood armoire that was too tall to ever fit in our U.S. house--something like 9 or 10 feet tall. So it's been sitting in our garage since 1987. My wedding dress she's been keeping in a closet, maybe could sell. Everything else, I WILL throw away, I have very little attachment to things.

My niece loves visiting us. I always tell her to go and see if she fancies anything from my handbag collection. So far, she's got two Marc Jacobs totes, four Dior saddlebags and four Chanel bags- two double-flaps and two totes. I'm now down to my last 15 designer bags........and my niece is visiting, from London, next weekend! You can only carry one bag at a time.....and your bum never 'looks big in it'! I need to hide my Moscow jumbo flap bag!

[imnotbitter]

After my parents died, we just hired an estate sale company and they got rid of all my parents' stuff and cut us a check for around $5k. I had an infant and a toddler at the time and going back-and-forth from Orange County to San Diego just wasn't cutting it. Probably should have kept more of their stuff but I just couldn't deal with it all at the time.

[charmedhour]

Aug 5, 2022 22:30:19 GMT imnotbitter said:

After my parents died, we just hired an estate sale company and they got rid of all my parents' stuff and cut us a check for around $5k. I had an infant and a toddler at the time and going back-and-forth from Orange County to San Diego just wasn't cutting it. Probably should have kept more of their stuff but I just couldn't deal with it all at the time.

We're actually looking into doing the same now. Estate liquidators often want to do an in home auction and that's a no for us.  It's hard trying to find someone to lump sum buy in a relatively rural-ish area and kind of lower socieconomic for the vast majority of residents.

[notoriousmkg]

Some more stories:

1. My cousin who is a high-energy superstar helped organize and empty a LOT of my mom's house right after she died. She did it with my aunt (mom's sister). Basically, all my cousin asked for in return was to keep some of the carnival glass she saw and liked. I know that carnival glass could be worth thousands of dollars sometimes, but often times not. And I know my cousin would not screw me over for it.

2. One of the dumpsters we filled got raided a day or so later by some opportunistic guys looking to scavenge. My mom's neighbor called my brother and said, "There's a guy standing in your dumpster and he has a handgun in his hand and he is pointing it around!" It turned out that my brother had sloppily thrown one of my dad's BB pistols in there and it actually looked like a real handgun.

3. I don't believe in ghosts but I was INCREDIBLY creeped out at doing any work in the house by myself after dark. I would literally get "The Grudge" kind of creeps. And there was a freaking step, up from the rec room, that for some reason, when you hit the second to last step, would cause a loud snapping sound at the bottom of the steps. I never got over that.

4. One time, my brother forgot to close the door to the house after he had done some work there. So, the door is open and a neighbor calls the police. I rush down from my house to go meet up with the cops. And I wait outside while they send a police dog in to check things out. And then, they carefully go in after the dog. It was the longest, most methodical search I ever saw. I think it was like 45 minutes or so before they gave the all clear and I was allowed to go into the house. I apologized profusely, but they were very polite and seemed to be relieved that the house didn't have some kind of lunatic burglar in it.