Drew Barrymore admits she wishes her mother Jaid was dead: ‘

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Drew Barrymore admits she wishes her mother Jaid was dead: ‘I cannot wait’

June 5, 2023


The TV host got candid about her tumultuous childhood with her mother, revealing she’s jealous of friends who have already lost their parents.



“All their moms are gone, and my mom’s not. And I’m like, ‘Well, I don’t have that luxury.’ But I cannot wait,” Drew told New York magazine.



“I don’t want to live in a state where I wish someone to be gone sooner than they’re meant to be so I can grow. I actually want her to be happy and thrive and be healthy. But I have to f–king grow in spite of her being on this planet.”


However, later in the interview, the “ET” actress shared remorse for her harsh comments.



“I dared to say it, and I didn’t feel good,” she said. “I do care. I’ll never not care. I don’t know if I’ve ever known how to fully guard, close off, not feel, build the wall up.”



The “Never Been Kissed” star, 48, has been open in the past about growing up with Jaid, who acted as her manager and took her to Hollywood parties, including Studio 54, as a child. By 12, Drew had already been to rehab for drugs and alcohol, and at 13 her mom put her in a psychiatric ward in California.





Drew was in rehab by 12 and a psychiatric ward by 13.
“I think she created a monster, and she didn’t know what to do with the monster,” she told Howard Stern in a 2021 interview.



One year later, when she was just 14 years old, she was emancipated from her parents.



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While Drew was able to forgive her father, John David Barrymore, before he died in 2004, she has never fully reconciled with her mom. Though she tells New York mag she doesn’t “blame” Jaid for the challenges in her life.


“I choose very consciously not to see my life as things that have been done to me,” she said. “I want to see it as the things I did and chose to do. I’m not attracted to people who lay blame on others. I don’t find it sexy.”



The actress — who shares two daughters with ex-husband Will Kopelman — previously shed light on where she and Jaid stand, saying that she “will always support her” in a December interview.



“I can’t turn my back on the person who gave me my life,” she told People. “I can’t do it. It would hurt me so much. I would find it so cruel. But there are times where I’ve realized that our chemistry and behavior will drum up a feeling in me where I have to say, ‘Ok, I need a break again.'”

Source Drew Barrymore admits she wishes her mother Jaid was dead: ‘I cannot wait’

[trixie]

Wow. Talk about saying the quiet thing out loud.

[holly]

I have always had a very tumultuous relationship with my mother, & although I’ve never wished her dead (well, probably a few times when I was a teenager), on some level I can relate to what she’s saying.

[loftybike]

I feel like her, but I've never said it - outside a psychotherapist's office, that is.
It's the feeling that I'll be free when she dies, because so much I eperience is still filtered through the selfish, mean and heartless filters she installed in me. I don't think that her death would change much, but at least I wouldn't have to deal with her.
She's 90 now, still quite fit (aside from trouble with walking and a slight onset of dementia) and in a retirement home where she has a good time making the nurses lifes as difficult as she can, making everyone as miserable as ever. A true narcist to the end.
I still visit her every sunday, get my dose of her. She knows that she can't mess with me, so she behaves, but I can see how she hates that.

[sputnik]

drew annoys me sometimes but i think if anyone is allowed to feel this way, and say it, it's her. especially given what her mother put her through, very publicly and from such a young age.

[tulip]

From Huffpost: Drew Barrymore Slams Tabloids

Drew Barrymore Slams Tabloids Claiming She Wants Her Mother Dead
Barrymore accused outlets of "putting words in my mouth" after making some brutally honest comments about her mom in a Vulture profile.
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Drew Barrymore has hit back at tabloids for mischaracterizing comments she made about her complicated relationship with her mother.
The talk show host offered a raw take about her traumatic childhood in a profile with Vulture that came out Monday, telling the site how it’s hard to heal from the past while her mother, Jaid Barrymore, is still alive.


Though Drew Barrymore said in the interview that she “cannot wait” for the closure her mother’s death will offer, she accused media outlets of taking her words out of context in an Instagram video posted later Monday.
Taking the media to task, the “E.T.” star said, “You know what? To all you tabloids out there, you have been fucking with my life since I was 13 years old. I have never said that I wished my mother was dead. How dare you put those words in my mouth.”
“I have been vulnerable and tried to figure out a very difficult, painful relationship while admitting it is difficult to do so while a parent is alive,” she added. “And that for those of us who have to figure that out in real time, cannot wait as in they cannot wait for the time — not that the parent is dead.”
In the original Vulture interview, Barrymore admitted to being jealous of friends whose parents have died, saying, “All their moms are gone, and my mom’s not. And I’m like, Well, I don’t have that luxury. But I cannot wait.”

The actor explained, “I don’t want to live in a state where I wish someone to be gone sooner than they’re meant to be so I can grow.”
She made it clear she had no ill will toward her mother, adding, “I actually want her to be happy and thrive and be healthy. But I have to fucking grow in spite of her being on this planet.”
Barrymore instantly recognized the gravity of her words in the interview, telling Vulture, “I dared to say it, and I didn’t feel good.”
“I do care. I’ll never not care,” she said of her mom. “I don’t know if I’ve ever known how to fully guard, close off, not feel, build the wall up.”

Barrymore has been open about her complicated relationship with her mom, who blurred the lines between parent and friend by introducing her to Hollywood nightlife when she was still a child.
Barrymore’s mother sent her to rehab by the time she was 12 years old and committed her daughter to a psychiatric ward when she was 13. She was legally emancipated at 14, and these days the actor financially supports her mother but they have limited contact.
Despite the challenges of her childhood, Barrymore said doesn’t “blame” her mom for what happened in the past.
“I choose very consciously not to see my life as things that have been done to me,” she explained. “I want to see it as the things I did and chose to do. I’m not attracted to people who lay blame on others. I don’t find it sexy.”

[beeyotch]

This shouldn't be so taboo to say. She was a child and her mother made some serious mistakes.
Some mistakes leave indelible marks, and many times parents are responsible for them, let's not pretend otherwise. And who is anyone else to tell her she's not entitled to feel however she does about it? We really should stop pushing the forced forgiveness thing, that is really just so other people don't feel uncomfortable... people have a right to feel angry, let them.

And anyway, she seems very self aware and trying to make the best of, and see the positive of a very negative situation.

[notoriousmkg]

There are some parents out there who should absolutely drop dead. I think I was reading a Reddit "True Off My Chest" post yesterday, and there was this woman who said her two older sisters were the "golden children" with her mom. And even though the woman posting the Reddit story had a lucrative job in IT (information technology, multimedia company), her mom kept implying to everyone she met that the daughter was basically a prostitute. The woman clarified that she does not work for OnlyFans or some place with adult content. People also speculated whether the mom had oncoming dementia or something, but the woman (original poster) said "No, she has always been like this." (targeted/hated her own daughter for no good reason)

[sputnik]

^^^^
i went down a rabbit hole once and somehow ended up on a website for parents whose children have become estranged from them and the victimisation, denial, disingenuousness and entitlement were insane. so much doubling down on abusive, toxic behaviour, absolute disrespect for boundaries, and zero self-awareness. and yet they all claimed to be victims of adult children who were selfish and had cut them out of their lives for reasons they just couldn't comprehend.

Jun 6, 2023 14:08:22 GMT beeyotch said:

This shouldn't be so taboo to say. She was a child and her mother made some serious mistakes.

Some mistakes leave indelible marks, and many times parents are responsible for them, let's not pretend otherwise. And who is anyone else to tell her she's not entitled to feel however she does about it? We really should stop pushing the forced forgiveness thing, that is really just so other people don't feel uncomfortable... people have a right to feel angry, let them.


And anyway, she seems very self aware and trying to make the best of, and see the positive of a very negative situation.

this.
plus, we've been telling women forever to feel ashamed of every dark or painful or uncomfortable feeling they have, to hide it and put on a good face for the sake of being agreeable and not stirring the pot and protecting everyone's feelings but their own and being dutiful wives, mothers, daughters, etc. fuck that shit sideways.

[HWBL]

Some people have had bad experiences in their own childhood. This can be physical or psychological abuse or neglect, by parents (or other relatives). And they're either in denial about that or never had the guts or opportunity to work through that with the abusers and often take it out on others who had nothing to do with it. If they're parents, that means they often "take revenge" on their own offspring for things their parents (or elders) did to them. I've seen it around me. You know the kind of people who, for instance, say they will never treat their kids the way their parents treated them, only to end up doing the same shit to their own children and sometimes even worse. 

[burnt_toast]

My life will be simpler, in many ways, when my mother dies. I don't wish her dead but also ... I don't interact with her, don't really know her anymore and our estrangement causes some ongoing stressors for me that will end when she does. Her life brings me nothing positive and her death will be a kind of a relief. It ain't pretty, but it's real.

I totally get what Drew is saying.

[dilligaf]

I totally understand the feeling of relief when an abusive loved one dies.

[palta]

it is sad to read that some of you also have a bad relationship with your moms.
mine did a number on me too and it took a lot of time to heal. i went no contact with her when i turned 19 i think.
i used to hate her and now i just feel sorry for her. we are in contact but that's it. it makes me feel bad to know that i don't lover her, and it's hard to explain why we are not close to 'normal' people lol. i think i don't wish her harm, though, i just don't care at all.

[daphodil]

My situation was nothing like Drew's but I admit I was relieved when my mom passed when I was 32 and my dad 4 years later. Life became so much *easier* without them. I eventually cut out my full sibling and several half-siblings. I regret nothing. My world is small and in order to comment on my life or criticize me you have to be invited. Consider yourselves invited

[beeyotch]

Jun 6, 2023 22:47:06 GMT daphodil said:

My situation was nothing like Drew's but I admit I was relieved when my mom passed when I was 32 and my dad 4 years later. Life became so much *easier* without them. I eventually cut out my full sibling and several half-siblings. I regret nothing. My world is small and in order to comment on my life or criticize me you have to be invited. Consider yourselves invited

I like that. I think I'd feel the same.