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Post by sputnik on Jul 10, 2023 0:18:28 GMT
^^^
agree she might not have fully realised what it was when it happened. or needed time to process it. she's also barely 25, so was around 23 when this happened, he's 39.
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Post by kittylady on Jul 10, 2023 0:20:44 GMT
I don't usually condone dirty laundry airing but since he's out making documentaries about therapy and claiming to be all enlightened and feminist, he deserves it. Her screen captures are basically a public service announcement about what the beginnings of controlling behaviour, manipulation, gaslighting and emotional abuse look like in a relationship, and they weren't even together for a year. Imagine what it would have looked like after a few years of this shit and her being completely isolated from her friends and family and stepping back from her career to make him happy? This is my take on it. If he wants to monetize being Mr Touchy-Feely then she's allowed to call him out for being Mr Douchey-Baggy. Is she overplaying it? Possibly. Is she allowed to tell her side of the story? Absolutely. Just from my experience (and everyone else's milage may vary) a few things rang true. They are attracted to you because of (X) but once they have you hooked they no longer want you to do/be it and make so much of a fuss about it that you either severely limit it or give it up. Of course, once that has been achieved they then get you coming and going by dragging you for no longer being/doing (X) and tell you that you are no longer fun/attractive/don't care about them or yourself/don't make an effort because of it. Attempting to control your friendships and social connections. If you have a good social circle, someone is likely to call out the controlling behaviour, therefore they want to limit who you can see or speak to. This is another screenshot of her discussing the "boundaries" the therapist was suggesting in order to keep Jonah happy, as well as him trying to tell her who she could associate with from her pre-Jonah friends.  Counselling/Therapy? A Golden Rule should be to never engage in counselling with someone who is exhibiting abusive or controlling traits. They don't change but instead just learn a whole new set of tactics and buzzwords about why everything is your fault and none of it is theirs. Plus there's always a chance that they can convince the therapist/counsellor to be on their side rather than being a neutral third party, so then you have two of them against you rather than one. |
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Post by sputnik on Jul 10, 2023 0:45:44 GMT
saint hoax (one of my favourite instagram profiles ever) posted a quote by trevor noah talking about his mother dragging a certain type of man, and it perfectly sums up jonah hill or the recent nonsense with keke palmer's baby daddy bitching about her outfit:
"the way my mother always explained it, the traditional man wants a woman to be subservient, but he never falls in love with subservient women. He's attracted to independent women. "He's like an exotic bird collector," she said. "He only wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage."
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Post by czb on Jul 10, 2023 1:30:42 GMT
what i don't get is the number of people i hear about who are not married/in long-term relationships who do couples therapy. is this a thing? WHY? the early stages of dating are supposed to be carefree and fun. you don't share property or have kids so should have fewer issues? or is my thinking dated?
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Post by sputnik on Jul 10, 2023 5:39:58 GMT
I don’t know anyone who’s done it but I think it might be a thing among a certain subset of very privileged younger millennials and gen z-ers who grew up with helicopter parents and mucho therapists.
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Post by no1novice on Jul 10, 2023 6:19:17 GMT
saint hoax (one of my favourite instagram profiles ever) posted a quote by trevor noah talking about his mother dragging a certain type of man, and it perfectly sums up jonah hill or the recent nonsense with keke palmer's baby daddy bitching about her outfit: "the way my mother always explained it, the traditional man wants a woman to be subservient, but he never falls in love with subservient women. He's attracted to independent women. "He's like an exotic bird collector," she said. "He only wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage."I know that type. |
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Post by ravenna on Jul 10, 2023 22:04:46 GMT
I don't get them going to couples therapy either. Why would you be that desperate to make such a short term relationship work? No kids together, not married... cut your losses while they are minimal and move on. Find someone you don't have to work so hard to be with in the first freaking year.
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Post by no1novice on Jul 10, 2023 22:35:34 GMT
Since the "therapist" appears to be a Jonah-stan maybe he organised couples "therapy" to make a narcissistic point?
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Post by sputnik on Jul 10, 2023 22:44:57 GMT
i think the therapy was part of his MO. couples' therapy is actually not recommended in abusive relationships because of the neutral format that is prevalent in therapy, which means it can easily be used by the abuser to further manipulate their partner. the therapist might not have realised that if she wasn't that familiar with jonah and his bullshit, or was just a shitty therapist who should have picked up on the dynamic and recommended and end to couples counselling and that sarah seek individual therapy.
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Post by greysfang on Jul 10, 2023 22:55:10 GMT
I don't get them going to couples therapy either. Why would you be that desperate to make such a short term relationship work? No kids together, not married... cut your losses while they are minimal and move on. Find someone you don't have to work so hard to be with in the first freaking year. Preach it! |
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Post by notoriousmkg on Jul 11, 2023 1:06:06 GMT
what i don't get is the number of people i hear about who are not married/in long-term relationships who do couples therapy. is this a thing? WHY? the early stages of dating are supposed to be carefree and fun. you don't share property or have kids so should have fewer issues? or is my thinking dated? I think there is a type of person who has you attend couples therapy from the jump, under the auspices that it gets the relationship off to a good start and you learn "best practices". If the person who suggests this has some kind of codependent relationship with the therapist, I could see them slowly surreptitiously breaking down the new partner and their relationships and values to suit the existing patient. I thought this happened with another celeb long ago, but don't want to guess a name. |
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Post by no1novice on Jul 11, 2023 6:10:37 GMT
Why Sarah Brady waited for ex Jonah Hill’s girlfriend to give birth to release misogynistic texts By Riley Cardoza July 10, 2023 | 11:40am Sarah Brady purposely waited to accuse ex-boyfriend Jonah Hill of “emotional abuse” until after he welcomed his first baby. Brady told her Instagram followers on Sunday that she “waited until” Hill’s partner Olivia Millar gave birth before she released screenshots of aggressive texts from the actor. “I didn’t want [Millar] to have to see all of this while she was pregnant because I didn’t know what kind of stress that would cause her and her baby physically,” the 26-year-old surfer explained in a voice memo posted to her Instagram Story over the weekend. Brady also admitted that while “the timing can seem bad,” she hoped Millar saw the posts so she can “ make an informed decision of how she wants to care for herself and her baby.” “I just hope she would receive some of these screenshots somehow through friends, like, friends of mine that I met through him that I know are good people that I know would make an effort to protect her,” Brady said. On Saturday, the athlete — who said she was “not trying to slander somebody’s reputation” — posted screenshots of Hill’s critical messages, in which he demanded she refrain from “surfing with men,” posting “sexual pictures” and having “friendships with women who are in unstable places.” While the 39-year-old “21 Jump Street” actor has yet to comment on Brady’s claims that he is a “narcissistic misogynist,” his streetwear brand is currently selling ironic merch that sends a message. Meaningful Existence’s website now boasts a $30 “emotional baggage tote” that reads, “Complete Unrelenting Control.” meaningfulexistence.com/products/emotional-baggage-toteHill and Brady’s romance first made headlines in 2021, one year after he and Gianna Santos ended their engagement. Although it is unclear when the pair broke up, he was photographed with Millar in August 2022. In March of the following year, the then-pregnant businesswoman was spotted wearing what appeared to be an engagement ring on that finger. The couple have kept their relationship private, with Hill telling Deadline in August 2022 that he planned to stop promoting his movies due to his 20-year battle with anxiety attacks. Shortly after the Oscar nominee’s revelation, he deleted his Instagram account. He has not been active on social media since.  Out of his league. Fuck that website with Merc... It maybe meant "ironically" (according to him) but it's obscene. |
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Post by lindsaywhit on Jul 11, 2023 15:17:34 GMT
Well, the good news for me is that I can stop blaming myself for being shallow for disliking him because of his looks. Instead I'm a highly insightful woman who's sees beneath the image presented to the world.  |
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Post by cornflakegrl on Jul 11, 2023 15:22:05 GMT
So the ex wanted the new GF to be aware of his abusive nature.
Thank god she had twitter to get a message to her! And so sweet to wait until after (like IMMEDIATELY after) the baby is born so as to not stress out a pregnant woman. Not like holding your newborn baby is a special time or anything ... I hear it's the perfect time for a media shit storm, public humiliation AND to find out your baby daddy is a controlling prick.
What a humanitarian.
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Post by sputnik on Jul 11, 2023 15:40:07 GMT
since he locked that shit down and got her knocked up basically the minute he met her (which seems shady given what we now know), there was no 'good' time to do this. if she'd done it while she was pregnant, people would have bitched about that. wait until after, people bitch about that and why did she wait so long? wait even longer and people would bitch that she'd waited way too long. or maybe people are just unsympathetic to women who suffer abuse and it makes them uncomfortable or something so they'd rather blame the victim than be confronted with yet more evidence of how prevalent this shit is.
i still think whatever the timing, she did her, and everyone else a favour. it's really quite disturbing how many people seem to have more of an issue with her publishing the messages than they do with his manipulation, coercive control and emotional abuse. and weird to be worried about how these messages might be messing with her and not, you know, the likely daily dose of manipulation and therapy speak that jonah hill is probably dishing out on her and which must be really great for those pregnancy hormones or now that she's got a newborn to forever tie her to this controlling douche.
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