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Post by lindsaywhit on Feb 1, 2022 19:46:56 GMT
Thanks, Mostroop - my kids have a pretty good relationship with each other, so I'm thinking I'll just go with all three.
Yes, it was so great to hear her voice, and I could tell it made her really happy too. It helped me reassure the extended family that she really is feeling better - the surgery was an unquestionable success.
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Post by albatross on Feb 1, 2022 19:51:43 GMT
lindsaywhit That is so great about your sister. It is great that you had a chance to speak to her, and that she has her daughter with her. My mom was in the hospital in the summer of 2020 after she broke her shoulder in a fall, and then she had to go into a nursing home for about 5 or 6 weeks, and she was absolutely miserable. None of us could visit. She doesn't have a cell phone, so we got her a prepaid so that we could at least talk to her since at the nursing home there was only one phone per floor, and it was often busy. She did not do well with that - she really struggles with new technology - it's more that she convinces herself she won't be able to do it, so she refuses to even try...it's just one of the reasons why I don't even let her joke about moving in with me. I love her, but I would end up in prison if we lived in the same house. I stayed with her for a couple of weeks when she got home, and one time she was talking to my SIL, and I walked into the room with some scissors, and she jokingly told my SIL that I had scissors, and I was going to kill her. I assured her that when I did it would like an accident.
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Post by trixie on Feb 1, 2022 20:59:39 GMT
albatross, I know the feeling. After my mom died everyone in the extended family just assumed my sister would be moving in with me. I was like NO WAY. When my mom was alive, she also tried to push that on me. Again, I said nope. I mean, I do a LOT for her and she's in my life every day one way or the other, whether I like it or not. But I don't see why I should sacrifice my own happiness for her. When the time comes where she can't manage in her own place with caregivers, it will be assisted living or nursing care. That's it. And really, I don't think she'd enjoy living with me either.
I have a friend who took her mom in when she was maybe 90. She had dementia and needed a lot of care. All her brothers wanted to put her in a nursing home, but she refused. And, she also had her elderly mother-in-law living there. MIL was pretty self-sufficient, but still. Her mom lived to 98 I think. She did all this while keeping a full time pretty high powered job with a lot of travel. I don't know how. The woman is a saint.
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Post by albatross on Feb 1, 2022 23:07:19 GMT
Every time she tries to make me feel guilty for not even entertaining the idea of her living with me, I repeat to myself that saying "don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm".
I know if she moved in, I would be miserable. I do love her, but she drives me absolutely crazy. It's a bit funny that I'm the one she always talks about moving in with, and I'm also the only one that never moved back in at any time after moving out.
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Post by trixie on Feb 2, 2022 1:57:09 GMT
^ Just keep repeating that to yourself, like a mantra.  |
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Post by MsDark on Feb 3, 2022 1:55:28 GMT
Seriously. FUCK THIS DAY. We got icy rain/freeze warning for tonight/tomorrow and they were trying to get as many people home as possible. I was at work for about 2.5 hrs past my off time.
By the time I got home I'd done an involuntary 24 hr fast cause the last time I ate was dinner the night before!
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Post by lindsaywhit on Feb 3, 2022 4:38:36 GMT
My sister is out of the hospital! She did not go home, she is staying with her daughter for a few days to have some help as her husband is crotchety & older than dirt. But isn't she doing amazing!?!?! She's exhausted but so happy to be out of the hospital. Wow - not even a week & she's out. She obviously has to be very careful and it is not going to be easy, but what a difference a week makes.
I'm feeling pretty happy and thankful right now.
Thank you again, my GRToo family for all your love & support.
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Post by mostroop on Feb 3, 2022 18:40:40 GMT
Wow, she's out already? That's great!
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Post by albatross on Feb 3, 2022 20:51:27 GMT
It was great hearing that she sounded like her old self, but leaving the hospital is even better news.
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Post by shellee on Feb 4, 2022 3:28:14 GMT
I’m so happy for you linds!
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Post by aabbcc on Feb 5, 2022 1:13:55 GMT
I decided that I need a goal to work on this year. I wanted something that would challenge me and hopefully keep my aging brain from turning to mush, so I am learning Hebrew! If I can master at least some of the alphabet by the time 2023 rolls around, I'll consider it a win. My poor teacher. LOL
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Post by no1novice on Feb 7, 2022 17:34:52 GMT
lindsaywhit That is so great about your sister. It is great that you had a chance to speak to her, and that she has her daughter with her. My mom was in the hospital in the summer of 2020 after she broke her shoulder in a fall, and then she had to go into a nursing home for about 5 or 6 weeks, and she was absolutely miserable. None of us could visit. She doesn't have a cell phone, so we got her a prepaid so that we could at least talk to her since at the nursing home there was only one phone per floor, and it was often busy. She did not do well with that - she really struggles with new technology - it's more that she convinces herself she won't be able to do it, so she refuses to even try...it's just one of the reasons why I don't even let her joke about moving in with me. I love her, but I would end up in prison if we lived in the same house. I stayed with her for a couple of weeks when she got home, and one time she was talking to my SIL, and I walked into the room with some scissors, and she jokingly told my SIL that I had scissors, and I was going to kill her. I assured her that when I did it would like an accident. I jokingly tell my mother that I’ll put her in a home & if she is awful to me I’ll put her in a bad home….. This is the woman that told me I was adopted when I was a kid (I’m not, I was a home birth); so I figure fair is fair! great news Linds, you must be so relieved. Shellee? How’s the brother? B - I’m envious but not envious enough to get it done myself; besides it’s very expensive over here…. I think that my mother paid for my nephews. |
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Post by chalet on Feb 8, 2022 5:44:14 GMT
Hmm... might that place be San Francisco-y, Silicon Vally, Pixar-y kinda locations? A Rave - Mo, do you remember Linda Purl? If so I'll post why. Didn't she play Richie Cunningham's gf? Rave - my company won a $12 Million contract today. Rant - I'm still here at work. And it's snowing..... |
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Post by chalet on Feb 8, 2022 5:51:15 GMT
Yes, she was Richie's gf and then she was The Fonz's gf at the end of the show. (Sput is now rolling her eyes at me).
My ever lovin' 70's pop culture heart burst open when I read that Patrick Duffy (Bobby Ewing) and Linda Purl had fallen in major love and it happened during covid. They were in a Zoom chat with others when they met and then took it to nightly facetimes till they got together.
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Post by shellee on Feb 9, 2022 3:13:59 GMT
Novice, thanks for asking. His nurse today gave him her phone to call me. He sounds terrible and thinks he’s dying and will never er be normal again because he thinks he’ll have to have a feeding tube forever. He has COPD which fucked his lungs right up. He His complaints make me feel positive because that’s my brother and if he’s not being difficult then I’d be scared.
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