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Post by krisnine on May 23, 2022 18:11:02 GMT
It doesn’t end with the pregnancy or breastfeeding either. Every well intentioned thing you do is open for scrutiny. When to start solids? Can they have a sip of water? Swaddle or don’t swaddle? Cloth or disposable? Cry it out or pick them up? Use lavender to make them fall asleep. Don’t use lavender because it’s a hormone disruptor. Do those sippy cups/bottles/bowls have BPA? Lay them on their backs to sleep because maybe laying on their stomachs will cause SIDS. This is just the tip of the iceberg. There is literally, and I kinda do mean literally nothing you will do that someone will not criticize. My kid is 11 and I hesitate to share that we have lazy summers over here. Not camps, no academics, nothing. Just fun with friends and pool time.
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Post by dolem on May 23, 2022 21:28:48 GMT
Lazy summers are my favorite! My kids have typically done one week long camp, that's it. The rest of just being a kid and having unstructured fun. I don't believe it putting them in camps all day long all summer.
We had our kids right before the video baby monitors became popular. All our friends had kids later on. it was bizarre watching them stare at their sleeping babies just in case they moved or made a sound. I was like, "they're not crying I don't need to be paying attention"
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Post by no1novice on May 23, 2022 21:35:53 GMT
It doesn’t end with the pregnancy or breastfeeding either. Every well intentioned thing you do is open for scrutiny. When to start solids? Can they have a sip of water? Swaddle or don’t swaddle? Cloth or disposable? Cry it out or pick them up? Use lavender to make them fall asleep. Don’t use lavender because it’s a hormone disruptor. Do those sippy cups/bottles/bowls have BPA? Lay them on their backs to sleep because maybe laying on their stomachs will cause SIDS. This is just the tip of the iceberg. There is literally, and I kinda do mean literally nothing you will do that someone will not criticize. My kid is 11 and I hesitate to share that we have lazy summers over here. Not camps, no academics, nothing. Just fun with friends and pool time. And don’t forget the whole when will you have kids? Why don’t you have more kids? Why are you so selfish (for not having kids….) I think that women are just targeted- and worst - by other woman. |
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Post by chalet on May 23, 2022 21:52:49 GMT
^^your last line cracked me up. No one more ever
said it to me , no would they dare - so they should
explain exactly how I am selfish by not having children.
Exactly who am I being selfish towards? There’s no one
there. Do they mean I only care about myself? Well,
they would only have to know me to know the answer
to that question. It’s people’s own discomfort and or stupidity that gets them to say such things. And what if I or anyone else is
selfish? Just say yeah, I’m selfish and it should be said
in one’s best Monty Python voice.
What the hell did she name that kid already ?
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Post by kittylady on May 23, 2022 22:51:01 GMT
From personal experience, you can hire all the breastfeeding consultants you want, including La Leche League, etc., but if it's not happening, it's not happening. That is why I feel especially stressed watching all the people across the country scrambling to find baby formula..... I don't even have kids and I've been getting annoyed at the Holier Than Thou crowd giving mothers shit for needing formula and crowing about how mothers have managed without formula for thousands of years. Yeah Karen - they did without formula and babies fucking died because their mother's couldn't make any or enough milk to feed them. I refuse to believe this. I can still remember your announcement and could swear it was only three or four years ago. Shit. We're getting old. |
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Post by krisnine on May 24, 2022 4:56:29 GMT
^^ I cant believe it either, kitty. Sometimes it feels just like yesterday.
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Post by no1novice on May 24, 2022 11:26:40 GMT
From personal experience, you can hire all the breastfeeding consultants you want, including La Leche League, etc., but if it's not happening, it's not happening. That is why I feel especially stressed watching all the people across the country scrambling to find baby formula..... I don't even have kids and I've been getting annoyed at the Holier Than Thou crowd giving mothers shit for needing formula and crowing about how mothers have managed without formula for thousands of years. Yeah Karen - they did without formula and babies fucking died because their mother's couldn't make any or enough milk to feed them. I refuse to believe this. I can still remember your announcement and could swear it was only three or four years ago. Shit. We're getting old.Fuck you. Fuck you and the cat you rode in on. I’m staying 36 forever. I just need my face & arse to get the message now!!! |
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Post by tulip on May 24, 2022 12:03:17 GMT
Women have been conditioned to be critical and judgmental of other women. I think it's another way that men can keep up the patriarchal society we live in. It makes me sad that we can be our own worst enemies. If I'm being completely honest, I am not immune to it. I think I'm better now that I'm older, but I've slung my fair share of judgement -- although I keep it to myself or spew it on a message board at a celeb.
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Post by tulip on Feb 13, 2023 15:02:07 GMT
... and baby number 2 is on the way! Don't know all the details, but her rep confirmed it after the Super Bowl.
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Post by notoriousmkg on Feb 13, 2023 17:22:56 GMT
Hey, has anybody figured out why Donald Trump seems to have a vendetta against her lately? Before the Superbowl he said that she owed her career to her stylist. And then after the Superbowl, he said she performed the worst halftime show ever. Rihanna has always seemed apolitical to me, so I can't figure out what Trump's motivation is here.
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Post by louiswinthorpe111 on Feb 13, 2023 17:37:12 GMT
^^ I think she "insulted" Trump at some point by telling the truth.
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Post by charmedhour on Feb 13, 2023 18:44:37 GMT
Hey, has anybody figured out why Donald Trump seems to have a vendetta against her lately? Before the Superbowl he said that she owed her career to her stylist. And then after the Superbowl, he said she performed the worst halftime show ever. Rihanna has always seemed apolitical to me, so I can't figure out what Trump's motivation is here. She's owned him on social several times, including a series of photos of her spray painting "fuck Trump". |
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Post by firebrat1229 on Feb 13, 2023 21:15:07 GMT
Hey, has anybody figured out why Donald Trump seems to have a vendetta against her lately? Before the Superbowl he said that she owed her career to her stylist. And then after the Superbowl, he said she performed the worst halftime show ever. Rihanna has always seemed apolitical to me, so I can't figure out what Trump's motivation is here. She's owned him on social several times, including a series of photos of her spray painting "fuck Trump". My hero. Wonder if she'd marry me? Nevermind that I'm a broke-ass 54 year old woman, I'm willing to try! |
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Post by no on Feb 14, 2023 4:28:15 GMT
Hey, has anybody figured out why Donald Trump seems to have a vendetta against her lately? Before the Superbowl he said that she owed her career to her stylist. And then after the Superbowl, he said she performed the worst halftime show ever. Rihanna has always seemed apolitical to me, so I can't figure out what Trump's motivation is here. she's a successful black woman, that's really the whole crux of it. |
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Post by loftybike on Feb 14, 2023 7:16:15 GMT
^^An old white dude is telling a pregnant black woman that her work wasn't up to his completely uneducated standards.
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