Alicia Silverstone Says She Shares Bed with 11-Year-Old Son

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Alicia Silverstone Says That She And Her 11-Year-Old Son Still Sleep In The Same Bed

July 21, 2022 / Posted by: Emily344





Us Weekly reports that, during a recent appearance on The Ellen Fisher Podcast, Alicia Silverstone revealed that she and her 11-year-old son, Bear, still sleep together in the same bed. Um, no offense to anybody who is shocked by this information, but, like, duh! 45-year-old Alicia is a hippy-dippy vegan crunchy mom. The lady baby bird feeds her son, bathes with him, talks about his pooping habits, vegan diet, and his penchant for French kisses. She named him Bear Blu, for Christ’s sake! To be honest, I’m surprised that these two even sleep in a bed at all. I took them for “hammock under the stars” types.


via US Weekly:



“Bear and I still sleep together,” Silverstone, 45, said during a Tuesday, July 19, episode of “The Ellen Fisher Podcast.” The Clueless star joked that she would likely “get in trouble” with mom-shamers for the admission, adding, “I don’t really care.”



The California native isn’t fazed by criticism of her parenting style. “I’m a natural mama, and I’m a loving mama. I believe in love, I believe in nature and our society is scared of nature and love,” she said on the podcast.



Society is also scared of letting their babies free-shit on the ground. But not Alicia, who also revealed she rarely made Bear wear diapers when he was being potty-trained. Instead, she “watched his cues” to determine when her son needed to go to the bathroom:



“It’s so awesome. It’s so easy,” Silverstone explained. “When I was done feeding him, he would go to the bathroom in the toilet. When he woke up from a nap, he went to the bathroom.”



She continued, “There was a period of time where I was watching him naked and watching the cues. The cues part for me was really fun because I thought that he was flirting with me because he would do this little smile. That’s when he had to pee.”



Come on, Alicia! Why’d ya have to use the word “flirting”? At this point, it’s almost like she’s trolling the online mommy shamers. And anyone who daaares date her little Bear in the future, and naively Googles his name.



Alicia goes on to say that her ex-husband, Christopher Jarecki, initially dismissed her parenting methods as “hippy shit,” but eventually he came to appreciate them. The couple divorced in 2018 after 21 years together. Alicia has said that she and Chris still co-parent well, and generally leave it up to Bear to decide whose house he wants to stay at. Hmmm, methinks once Bear hits puberty, he’ll be opting to sleep at Dad’s house a little more often. His own bed! A door that closes! Nobody tracking his pooping patterns! The height of teenage luxury.



Pic: Instagram


Tags: Alicia Silverstone, Moms

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I think this is the crunchy-granola-mommy-blogger version of trolling, but I also think her son deserves privacy and boundaries.  I also don't know what to think about the fact that I forget about her until she gives an interview about her parenting practices and it's always something weird.  (I do remember her being in The Killing of a Sacred Deer and she was suitably creepy in that.)  I also don't know what to make of the fact that she claimed her son was a little PETA warrior.  He just seems so isolated and she seems overly devoted.  

[notoriousmkg]

First of all, I like Alicia Silverstone. I have some kind of soft heart for hippie people like Alicia and Lisa Bonet, Shailene Woodley, and Kate Hudson.

But I think Alicia is in for a hard fall after this level of attachment parenting. Her son is 11 and based on personal experience, her son is going to undergo a radical change - physically and emotionally over the next 2 years. He's going to grow 6-12 inches. He is going to separate from her emotionally and start bonding with friends. A single mom was just writing about this yesterday on Reddit. It was pretty bewildering and sad for her.

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Jul 25, 2022 20:03:36 GMT notoriousmkg said:

First of all, I like Alicia Silverstone. I have some kind of soft heart for hippie people like Alicia and Lisa Bonet, Shailene Woodley, and Kate Hudson.

But I think Alicia is in for a hard fall after this level of attachment parenting. Her son is 11 and based on personal experience, her son is going to undergo a radical change - physically and emotionally over the next 2 years. He's going to grow 6-12 inches. He is going to separate from her emotionally and start bonding with friends. A single mom was just writing about this yesterday on Reddit. It was pretty bewildering and sad for her.

I think she's kooky, but I wouldn't go so far to say I dislike Alicia.  But I also think she refers to stuff like "flirting" to get a rise out of people which is kind of bizarre and some of the other stuff is tone deaf (how many moms have the time to potty train their kid without using diapers?)  I completely agree that she's in for a big letdown in the not so distant future.  

[sputnik]

didn't she split from her husband? i am willing to bet money that her excessive attachment to the kid is at least partly to blame. you can be a hippie without being overbearing and smothering your poor kid so that they don't know how to be independent at all. that's not good parenting, it's neurosis.

my friend's half-brother and his wife let their kids sleep with them until they were 8 or 10 or 9 and 11 can't remember, and in the end my friend's half-brother basically put his foot down and said the kids have to go back to their rooms because they'd gotten so big that really it meant his wife slept with the kids in the bed and he got to sleep on the couch in their room. they even had to go to therapy to get ready for the transition because the kids could only sleep with their parents (couldn't ever go on sleepovers without freaking out, etc), and his wife was the one that kept letting this go on and on.
my friend says their marriage isn't great and really the only thing keeping them together is parenting those kids, no surprises there. i bet they haven't had sex since they conceived the last kid.

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Jul 25, 2022 20:59:28 GMT sputnik said:

didn't she split from her husband? i am willing to bet money that her excessive attachment to the kid is at least partly to blame. you can be a hippie without being overbearing and smothering your poor kid so that they don't know how to be independent at all. that's not good parenting, it's neurosis.

my friend's half-brother and his wife let their kids sleep with them until they were 8 or 10 or 9 and 11 can't remember, and in the end my friend's half-brother basically put his foot down and said the kids have to go back to their rooms because they'd gotten so big that really it meant his wife slept with the kids in the bed and he got to sleep on the couch in their room. they even had to go to therapy to get ready for the transition because the kids could only sleep with their parents (couldn't ever go on sleepovers without freaking out, etc), and his wife was the one that kept letting this go on and on.
my friend says their marriage isn't great and really the only thing keeping them together is parenting those kids, no surprises there. i bet they haven't had sex since they conceived the last kid.

Yeah, they split and she glosses over the fact that the husband didn't like the parenting style but "appreciates" it now. I am side-eying that.



Having kids is already exhausting, I cant imagine being attached to them 24/7. It just seems to me most kids shouldn't have to go to therapy to transition from sleeping in the bed with the parents to going to their own beds. It just doesn't seem healthy to dedicate every second of the day to your children, one on one.  It's not good for the marriage and it can't be good for the kids.  If they are that age and freaking out over sleepovers for the specific issue that they don't know how to sleep away from the mom, that's crazy.  What are they going to do in college and beyond?  That's going to be hard to grow out of.  

Alicia also says "I believe in nature," but I don't get how that's nature.  For some reason, as soon as humans had the chance to get off the cave floor and into rooms, they kind of embraced it at the first chance they had?  

[trixie]

Yeah, he'll either separate from her or they'll become a creepy pair like Elizabeth and Damian Hurley.

And I feel for the kid because he's 11, not 5 and assuming he goes to school and/or has friends, he's going to be teased that he still sleeps with his mommy. She might not care about the mommys shaming her, but she shouldn't be making things public that could subject her kid to bullying.

[tulip]

Jul 25, 2022 21:26:02 GMT trixie said:

Yeah, he'll either separate from her or they'll become a creepy pair like Elizabeth and Damian Hurley.

And I feel for the kid because he's 11, not 5 and assuming he goes to school and/or has friends, he's going to be teased that he still sleeps with his mommy. She might not care about the mommys shaming her, but she shouldn't be making things public that could subject her kid to bullying.

I wouldn't be surprised if he's homeschooled and doesn't have a ton of friends. 

[daphodil]

Besides all the potential teasing, I'm a bit concerned about his ability to form healthy relationships with females. Honestly, I thought the chewing food and feeding him like a baby bird was strange, but the co-sleeping at his age is bordering on something not right. The kid needs some independence.

[kittylady]

Jul 25, 2022 20:59:28 GMT sputnik said:

didn't she split from her husband? i am willing to bet money that her excessive attachment to the kid is at least partly to blame. you can be a hippie without being overbearing and smothering your poor kid so that they don't know how to be independent at all. that's not good parenting, it's neurosis.

Didn't some of us suspect the same thing when Mayim Bialik split from her husband?  She's into that extended breastfeeding and attachment parenting thing too.

[MsDark]

I guess we know why he's an only child then. Upthread y'all beat me to it but I can guarantee this was a factor in the split.

I'm also thinking she'll have a hard time with it when he wants a little space/privacy of his own, which is no doubt gonna happen when he hits the teen years. I wouldn't be shocked if he wants to stay with dad for awhile.

Also:  This kid looks so much like her I'd almost think she cloned a male version of herself.  If you'd asked me I would have thought he was older than this by now.  It seems like she's been hippy-mommying for longer than 11 years now.

[o0amber0o]

I shared a bed with my mom (single parent) until I was 12, at times because I had to but when I had opportunities to have my own space as a kid I refused to sleep in my own bed then. When I was going into JR high I finally just made the decision on my own. For what it's worth, I have a shit relationship with her and haven't spoken to her in most 3 years.

I also had a friend who had HER son sleeping in her bed (parents were married but slept in different rooms which I think needs to be more accepted honestly) until he was also about 11 and the the cosleeping just naturally ended. He has grown to be a delightful young man (always has been really). They obviously are very close.

While I definitely side eye some of her choices, I kind of think sleeping arrangements boil down to what works for the family. I'm sure there are questionable POS parents out there that guilt trip or force their kids to cosleep, there's nothing to indicate that's the case here and I'm sure the kid will grow out of it.

[notoriousmkg]

Jul 25, 2022 20:59:28 GMT sputnik said:

didn't she split from her husband? i am willing to bet money that her excessive attachment to the kid is at least partly to blame. you can be a hippie without being overbearing and smothering your poor kid so that they don't know how to be independent at all. that's not good parenting, it's neurosis.

my friend's half-brother and his wife let their kids sleep with them until they were 8 or 10 or 9 and 11 can't remember, and in the end my friend's half-brother basically put his foot down and said the kids have to go back to their rooms because they'd gotten so big that really it meant his wife slept with the kids in the bed and he got to sleep on the couch in their room. they even had to go to therapy to get ready for the transition because the kids could only sleep with their parents (couldn't ever go on sleepovers without freaking out, etc), and his wife was the one that kept letting this go on and on.
my friend says their marriage isn't great and really the only thing keeping them together is parenting those kids, no surprises there. i bet they haven't had sex since they conceived the last kid.

This is not saying that I endorse co-sleeping, but we had our kids sleeping in our bed until age 9 or so.  Not every night, but I would say it was basically an open invitation and we were both on board with it.  At first, it was our daughter, and then it was our son.  We also have a king-size bed, and about 10 pillows, so it was pretty easy to lose someone in the middle of it.  They spontaneously went to their own rooms around age 11.  I know for both of us, it feels like just an amazing time, and we are very nostalgic about it.  But we are both kind of over-the-top affectionate people in general.

Another sleeping habit our daughter had - for about a year - was to come downstairs around 11 pm or midnight and have me put her to bed.  I would be working downstairs in our den area, and I would invariably hear her sliding down the stairs on her butt, step by step.  Until she poked her head around the corner and said, "Would you put me to bed?"  I would lie next to her and invariably conk out until around 2 am and then basically wake up and drag myself back to my actual bedroom.

But it all worked out.  My kids are way more normal than I was at their age, and our son has a girlfriend.  

Our daughter has described us to her friends as kind of hippie parents.  Not because of food or clothes or anything, but because of a relaxed, non-punitive attitude.  I learned a lot from you guys.

[chalet]

I don't think she takes him to the dentist.

I've seen parents (I can't think of a softer word) so I'll say use their kids and grown kids as partners.  The relationships
seemed so non parental and frankly they were reliant on their kids for an emotional connection, leaning on them for advice and company.   What will happen pretty soon when he starts telling Mom to knock on his door first? (Or will he)?    Think she'll talk about that on tv too? 

[chaz]

Lying in bed having a leisurely wank....right next to mom 😬 classy

[Sarzy]

She sounds way too intense, she needs to give him space and stop blabbing to the media. Some quotes from an interview last year

Bear and I love each other so much, it’s just absolutely silly,” she gushes. “I am sure that’s how every parent feels. He’s my favorite buddy, he’s my favorite person. He’s so sweet and delicious and wonderful.”

Bear and I have never experienced boredom. When he’s at my house, there’s no media. We’ll watch a movie maybe once a week as a special treat, but he’s not on iPads or any electronics; he’s just with me. We walk the dogs every day, we trampoline, we jump rope. In the beginning I would trick him into thinking we were playing, but really he was just helping me get exercise. We would go on nature hikes and cook. We live in a beautiful home that’s humble and gorgeous and we love it. Being together is what we do no matter what. Prior to all of this I had taken him to Bali, and we spent three weeks just running around Bali together — no electronics, just being together. And now, we just went to Alaska together.

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